Some time ago I got a new understanding of what Hukam is. I had a moment I was thinking negatively, which made my mum and dad talk about what this negativity had to do with Hukam. As this was an “aha”-experience for me, I thought of sharing this to you. Maybe it’s not that a special recogniton, maybe it’s more common-knowledge, but I still think that sometimes repetition can help you internalize the wisdom. Note: This post doesn’t cover all the aspects of what obeying the Hukam means – I have no knowledge for that, but as I thirst for knowledge, you can share your opinions if you want 🙂
When you are thinking negatively about something that has happened or are probably going to happen, are you obeying Gods Hukam? No, we are not obeying the Hukam, we are protesting against the Hukam by complaining and not accepting the situation. We have two paths in life – an easy one and a difficult one. Complaining and thinking negatively is a part of the easy path, and it doesn’t give us anything else than negative emotions like pain and anxiety. If you want to take the difficult path, that incorporates states like acceptance and positivity, you will appreciate life more. Obeying the Hukam is a part of the difficult path, but in turn, you gain a lot. Sometimes it’s difficult to think positively in a situation, though, like when someone near you dies. In these times obeying the Hukam takes the form of acceptance. Accepting the situation makes it easier to later think positively about the memories you had with this person and the lessons you learnt in interacting with this person.
Is obeying the Hukam only restricted to thinking positively and accepting the situation you are in? No, it’s even broader. Obeying the Hukam is also accepting other people as they are. God made them, just like you. They may do mistakes, but so do you. Who are you to judge if they are doing right or wrong? When we let go of judging if the other person is doing right or wrong, accept the person as that person is and accept the fact that the other person has a different journey than us, we are obeying the Hukam. Here it’s important to distinguish that judging if the other person is doing right or wrong is different from reflecting upon if we are doing right or wrong. We shouldn’t do things we are uncomfortable with or things that doesn’t seem right for us – stick to the values you feel is right for you, but don’t restrict your mind to think that others that don’t do the same as you, are wrong. They have their own paths, and they are as good as yours!
I think the Hukam is not restricted to thinking negatively about a situation or another person, it’s also about not accepting or complaining about yourself. For example complaining about how God made you or doing different operations to change yourself as you are not satisfied with yourself, is to disobey the Hukam. God made you like this, accept this. His Creation is nothing than perfect. When He is Perfect, how can He create something that isn’t perfect? When we accept how we look, our energy will be more focused on the inner qualities – how to become a better person.
Use five minutes now to reflect upon if you want to take the difficult path or the easy path. Whenever a situation arises where you start thinking negatively or start complaining about the situation, any other person or yourself, try to remember which path you wanted to take, weight the pros and cons, and decide if you still want to commit to that path.
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